The Talk
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How to have better sex when you're stressed or exhausted
There's a particular kind of frustration that comes from wanting to feel something and finding that your body has already clocked off for the day. The mind is willing -...
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When intimacy feels easier alone than with someone else
It’s a quiet realisation that often comes with a side of guilt: the fact that pleasure sometimes feels more accessible when there is no one else in the room. We’re...
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Why orgasms feel different from one time to the next
We often talk about the orgasm as if it’s a singular, predictable destination. In reality, it’s a moving target. Some days it’s a full-body experience that leaves you completely floored,...
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How to experience multiple orgasms - without the pressure
The idea of multiple orgasms often gets framed as a high-level skill or some kind of physical marathon. As we know, turning pleasure into a goal is usually the quickest...
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The pressure to want sex more than you do
The pressure to want sex more than you do can be a heavy one, because it’s rarely about the sex itself and almost always about the guilt that starts to...
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Feeling out of sync with your partner sexually
This is one of those topics that usually gets buried under a lot of clinical advice or, worse, hushed up like it’s a sign of a failing relationship. In reality,...
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The 2am Ghost: why we text the people we don’t want back
There is a specific, low-frequency hum that happens around the third glass of wine. It’s the moment where the logic of the day begins to dissolve and the phone in...
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The second adolescence: reclaiming the sexual self
In the traditional arc of life, adolescence is usually framed as a messy, hormone-fueled rite of passage - a blur of first crushes and the frantic construction of an identity....
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Is wanting to be desired the same as wanting sex?
They often get bundled together, but they are not the same thing. Wanting to be desired and wanting sex can overlap, sometimes neatly, sometimes messily. But they come from different...
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Valentine’s day, for yourself
Valentine’s Day has a reputation for being about couples, gestures and visible romance. The kind that’s easy to spot from the outside. Flowers on tables, reservations booked weeks ahead, carefully...
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What is an air-pulse clitoral stimulator — and what does it actually feel like?
If you’ve been curious about air-pulse clitoral stimulators — sometimes referred to as suction vibrators — but aren’t quite sure what they actually feel like, you’re not alone. The technology...
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Expanding the toolkit: Why we created Rush
Rush is an air-pulse clitoral stimulator designed to sit alongside the Essensual Vibe, not replace it. It offers a different tactile language - one centered on rhythm, localized pressure, and...
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The design ethos of Rush: Why pleasure belongs in the open
For too long, the objects we use for our most intimate moments have been designed for the shadows. They were items to be tucked away in drawers, shrouded in a...
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The vulnerability hangover: When deep intimacy leaves you feeling "raw"
We are often told that the goal of intimacy is total connection - the kind of soul-baring closeness that makes the world disappear. We pursue it, we celebrate it and...
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6 intimacy-building exercises to keep the spark alive
Every long-term relationship eventually moves past the rush of the beginning. The early spark… that thrilling mix of novelty and anticipation gives way to something quieter, more stable and often,...
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What we talk about when we talk about “chemistry”
We’ve all said it…there was chemistry. Or maybe, there just wasn’t. It’s the phrase we reach for when logic fails, when attraction feels too complex to name. But what do...
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Talking to your partner about trying a vibrating ring
Bringing something new into your sex life can feel exciting and a little intimidating. Even if you’re curious about vibrating rings, the thought of suggesting it to a partner might...
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What a vibrating ring actually does: a beginner’s guide
Vibrating rings are one of those toys you often hear about but might not fully understand until you’ve tried one. Simple in design yet surprisingly versatile, they’re created to enhance...
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Intimacy you might miss if you’re not looking
Following on from our previous blog on unexpected things that are actually intimate, this piece goes a step further. It’s about the kinds of closeness that rarely get acknowledged -...
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Unexpected things that are actually intimate
Intimacy isn’t always obvious. It doesn’t only happen in physical closeness or deep conversation. Often, it shows up in quiet gestures that don’t ask for attention. You notice them after...
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The psychology of eye contact during sex
Eye contact is often treated as a sign of closeness. We hold it when we want someone to feel seen. We look away when we feel shy or unsure. But...
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The role of scent in sexual memory
Some smells stay with us. A particular cologne. The scent of skin. Sweat on sheets. You might catch it again months or years later, and without meaning to, you’re right...
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A guide to pleasuring yourself, together
For many people, the idea of mutual masturbation might feel unfamiliar or even a little awkward. It’s not often talked about openly, yet it can be one of the most...
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A beginner’s guide to roleplay
Have you ever wondered what it would feel like to step into a different version of yourself - or see your partner in a whole new light? That’s the heart...
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Why aftercare should be part of all good sex
You’ve just had sex, but instead of feeling close, you feel a little distant. Emotional. Maybe even a little alone - even though your partner is lying right beside you....
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Why your libido changes over time
Desire isn’t linear. It fluctuates - quietens, intensifies, shifts - and often in response to what's going on in your life, your body and your relationships. And while it can...
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How to talk to your partner about introducing a vibrator
Talking about sex can be vulnerable - even in relationships where communication is strong and intimacy feels easy. There are some topics that still make people pause, and one of...
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A guide to mirror play
Mirror play is an invitation to see yourself differently - to step into a space of self-discovery, sensuality, and confidence. It’s about cultivating intimacy with yourself, appreciating your body in...
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The fascinating history of the G-spot
We’ve all heard of the G-spot...that elusive, almost mythical part of the body said to hold the key to extraordinary pleasure. But behind the intrigue is a story that reflects...
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How to have safe sex online
The holiday season often brings people together, but it can also pull them apart - physically, at least. Between family obligations, Friendsmas gatherings, and work events, you might find yourself...
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Navigating intimacy and connection during IVF
Undergoing IVF is a deeply personal and often challenging journey, one that can test the foundations of even the strongest relationships. The process demands a level of emotional, physical, and...
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Why do so many of us fear intimacy?
Emotional intimacy—the kind that lets you connect deeply with someone—is something most of us crave but find hard to embrace. It demands vulnerability, which can feel daunting. If you’ve ever...
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A guide to exploring multiple orgasms
For those intrigued by the idea of more than one climax, exploring multiple orgasms offers a journey of self-discovery, connection, and a deeper understanding of your body’s rhythms. While multiple...
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A beginner’s guide to doms & subs
Curious about exploring BDSM or wondering if a dom/sub dynamic might be for you? Diving into these power dynamics can open up new layers of pleasure you didn’t even know...
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Scheduling sex: is it right for you?
You know how movies and books often show sex as this spontaneous, thrilling moment that usually ends with both partners having a mind-blowing orgasm? While that can definitely be part...
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Are you a pillow princess?
As many of the world’s greatest terms are, "Pillow Princess'' is a term coined by the queer community. Lesbian circles and queer women have been using the label for many...