The Talk
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Reclaiming intimacy after sexual assault
The numbers don’t lie: 1 in 5 women and 1 in 16 men in Australia have experienced a form of sexual violence. For queer people, the prevalence is even higher. ...
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Intimacy you might miss if you’re not looking
Following on from our previous blog on unexpected things that are actually intimate, this piece goes a step further. It’s about the kinds of closeness that rarely get acknowledged -...
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Unexpected things that are actually intimate
Intimacy isn’t always obvious. It doesn’t only happen in physical closeness or deep conversation. Often, it shows up in quiet gestures that don’t ask for attention. You notice them after...
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Finding purpose in pain: turning endometriosis into advocacy
Introducing In Touch - real stories, honest conversations and shared experiences from our community. Pleasure, connection, and sexuality are deeply personal. No two experiences are the same and there are endless stories...
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Fantasy and feminism
“Just because I fantasise / Doesn’t mean it’s wrong” - FKA twigs, Two Weeks Fantasies can feel like confessions. We tend to treat them as indulgent, embarrassing or somehow other...
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The psychology of eye contact during sex
Eye contact is often treated as a sign of closeness. We hold it when we want someone to feel seen. We look away when we feel shy or unsure. But...
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The role of scent in sexual memory
Some smells stay with us. A particular cologne. The scent of skin. Sweat on sheets. You might catch it again months or years later, and without meaning to, you’re right...
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A guide to pleasuring yourself, together
For many people, the idea of mutual masturbation might feel unfamiliar or even a little awkward. It’s not often talked about openly, yet it can be one of the most...
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A beginner’s guide to roleplay
Have you ever wondered what it would feel like to step into a different version of yourself - or see your partner in a whole new light? That’s the heart...
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Why aftercare should be part of all good sex
You’ve just had sex, but instead of feeling close, you feel a little distant. Emotional. Maybe even a little alone - even though your partner is lying right beside you....
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Life after The Kiss of Death: surviving a bilateral mastectomy in my 30s
Cancer is often seen as a monolithic experience - a singular battle with a clear beginning, middle, and end. But for those who live through it, the reality is much...
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The politics of moaning
When we think about sex, sound often feels like a given - moans, gasps, sighs of pleasure. But how, when and why we make noise during sex is shaped by...
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The meaning of a hickey
A hickey is more than just a bruise. It’s a mark that lingers - a visible trace of a private moment, left on the body for the world to see....
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How TV intimacy coordinators are changing what desire looks like on screen
We’ve always looked to screens to show us what desire should look like - the heat, the tension, the unspoken pull between two characters. These moments don’t just entertain us,...
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Why your libido changes over time
Desire isn’t linear. It fluctuates - quietens, intensifies, shifts - and often in response to what's going on in your life, your body and your relationships. And while it can...
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How to talk to your partner about introducing a vibrator
Talking about sex can be vulnerable - even in relationships where communication is strong and intimacy feels easy. There are some topics that still make people pause, and one of...
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The afterglow effect
There’s a reason sex can leave you feeling softer, closer, or more connected - not just in the moment, but hours or even days later. That feeling isn’t imagined and...
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Are you in love, or just in limerence?
You can’t stop thinking about them. Every message sends a rush through your body. Their absence feels like withdrawal. It’s intoxicating, consuming...even addictive. But is it love, or is it...
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Sex and sobriety: navigating intimacy as a recovering addict
Introducing In Touch - real stories, honest conversations and shared experiences from our community. Pleasure, connection, and sexuality are deeply personal. No two experiences are the same and there are endless stories...
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A guide to mirror play
Mirror play is an invitation to see yourself differently - to step into a space of self-discovery, sensuality, and confidence. It’s about cultivating intimacy with yourself, appreciating your body in...
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The fascinating history of the G-spot
We’ve all heard of the G-spot...that elusive, almost mythical part of the body said to hold the key to extraordinary pleasure. But behind the intrigue is a story that reflects...
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How to have safe sex online
The holiday season often brings people together, but it can also pull them apart - physically, at least. Between family obligations, Friendsmas gatherings, and work events, you might find yourself...
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What is cuffing season?
As the days get shorter and the air turns colder, the signs are unmistakable. Cosy couple shots flood social feeds, dating apps see a surge in swipes, and old flings...
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Navigating feelings for someone who isn’t your partner
Picture this: you’re in line for your morning coffee, and the barista’s smile lingers just a little longer than usual. Or maybe it’s the charming neighbour who always catches your...
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Creating space for meaningful connection
In our fast-paced, always-connected world, it’s easy to forget that true intimacy doesn’t just happen. It takes time, attention, and intention. Creating a space for meaningful connection isn’t about perfect...
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The psychology behind deep conversations: why they matter more than you think
When was the last time you had a conversation that felt more than just words? A conversation where you truly felt seen, heard, and understood? For many, moments of real...
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The art of emotional availability in relationships: why it’s key to lasting connection
Emotional availability—the art of being open, really listening, and showing empathy—is the bedrock of any lasting relationship. It’s what builds trust, closeness, and true intimacy, making both partners feel safe...
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Navigating intimacy and connection during IVF
Undergoing IVF is a deeply personal and often challenging journey, one that can test the foundations of even the strongest relationships. The process demands a level of emotional, physical, and...
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Why do so many of us fear intimacy?
Emotional intimacy—the kind that lets you connect deeply with someone—is something most of us crave but find hard to embrace. It demands vulnerability, which can feel daunting. If you’ve ever...
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‘Right person, wrong time’: unpacking the complexities of love and timing
We’ve all heard the phrase “right person, wrong time.” Some of us have probably even used it. But what does it really mean? Is it just a romanticised excuse for...
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A guide to exploring multiple orgasms
For those intrigued by the idea of more than one climax, exploring multiple orgasms offers a journey of self-discovery, connection, and a deeper understanding of your body’s rhythms. While multiple...
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Beyond monogamy: exploring consensual non-exclusivity
What once may have been considered ‘alternative’ arrangements have been gaining fierce popularity in recent years; you might even say polyamory has gone mainstream. Ethical non-monogamy (ENM) is a catch-all...
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When did Halloween get so sexy?
Halloween has evolved over the years from an eerie celebration into a night filled with costumes, candy, and personal expression. Amid the ghosts and goblins, one trend consistently resurfaces: the...
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Understanding what it means to be intersex
You might recognise the term ‘intersex’ from the ‘I’ in LGBTQIA+, but its true meaning is often misunderstood. Intersex people are born with physical sex characteristics—such as chromosomes, gonads, hormone...
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Four LGBTQIA+ icons to celebrate this LGBT history month
October brings the cosy feel of autumn—pumpkin spice, Halloween festivities, and, most importantly, LGBT History Month. This is a time to honour LGBTQIA+ icons whose courage, creativity, and resilience have...
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Why are more women coming out later in life?
In recent years, more women—particularly in their 30s and 40s—are coming out as queer, catching the public’s attention and raising questions about timing, identity, and relationships. This shift is not...