Squirting. Everyone’s gushing about it. To be honest, though, even the most sexually liberated or educated among us can be hard-pressed to define the elusive phenomenon of she-jaculation. Luckily there’s been enough research in recent times for us to shower you with a fountain of knowledge. So here are your five most pressing questions about squirting, answered at long last.
What is it?
We know more about what squirting isn’t than what it is. It’s not a Pokemon, or a keyboard layout. It’s not just pee - or at least, not entirely. So what actually is the liquid you expel when you squirt?
Basically, researchers believe it’s a combination of ejaculate and urine. This ejaculate is a milky, white fluid, which is made in the Skene’s gland (the prostate of someone with a vagina). Urine - well, you know what that is. When you squirt, the ejaculate from the Skene’s gland mixes with urine in the bladder, and voila! A sexy spritz.
Specifics aside, we think the whole pee-panic is unwarranted. Sex and arousal are one big messy melange of liquids anyway, so why not grab a towel and go with the flow?
Where does it come from?
Squirting is a release of liquid from the urethra that happens when a person with a vagina is turned on. Often, but not always, it occurs in conjunction with an orgasm. It can be a gush, a trickle, or just a droplet or two.
How do you do it?
Experts believe that everyone with Skene’s glands has the capacity to squirt with the right amount of practice and pleasure. First off, you need to be super relaxed, comfortable and present. Then comes the stimulation. The most commonly reported way to squirt is through G-spot stimulation, especially when it’s combined with clitoral touching. Both internal and external vibrators can help with this. When you feel the orgasm approaching, bearing down on your pelvic floor muscles is usually the key to inducing a squirt.
Who can do it?
People with vaginas commonly have one of two fears when it comes to squirting. Am I sexually inadequate because I don’t, or am I weird and gross because I do? The answer to both is a resounding no. These sorts of anxieties can get in our heads and prevent us from experiencing true pleasure, which looks different for everyone.
Just because your body might have the capacity to squirt, doesn’t mean you have to make it your life’s mission. Honestly, there are enough sexpectations for people with vaginas as it is.
Whether or not your bedroom looks like Wet’N’Wild doesn’t matter, as long as you’re enjoying the ride.
Is it real in porn?
Squirting was in Pornhub’s top 20 most-searched categories last year. People seem to love it, maybe because it’s mistakenly perceived as being cold, hard evidence of orgasm.
Some Oscar-winning adult performers go method, but the majority of the squirting in porn is fake. Not all porn stars reach orgasm when filming a scene, let alone a squirt-worthy one. What you see in squirting porn is often, in fact, the urine of a well-prepared and very well-hydrated performer. Since it’s all expelled through the urethra anyway, even a true squirt connoisseur will struggle to tell the difference.
Vaginal douching, along with a little movie magic, is also used. When the director yells “cut”, the performer uses a douche to insert water into the vagina. When the action resumes, the performer pushes it out to geyser-like effect.
Squirting is yet another piece in the sexy, complicated, beautiful puzzle of human sexuality. Whether you’re a seasoned pro, aspiring squirter, or simply an interested third-party, we hope you’ve found a few drops of wisdom in this article. Our biggest takeaway? The key to squirting, as in life, is to ditch any expectations, listen to your body, and do what feels good.