The prevalence of the vibrator in a bedroom setting – solo or partnered – has proliferated in recent years, with the orgasm-inducing, subtle rumbling of silicone offering the promise of many a muffled (or not) moan to people seeking pleasure.
But with clit stimulation, insert toys and bondage tools slowly becoming a staple in our storage places of choice, the benefits of vibrators’ multi-use functions remain widely unsung.
So, if you’re immersed in a routine stimulation session in dire need of versatility, or finding the incorporation of a toy during sex has become so commonplace that its beginning to run low on battery for inspiration, consider the following five ideas for unexpected ways to use your vibrator.
The oral aid
Placing a vibrator under your chin when engaging in oral sex can offer an additional wave of movement and sensation to your chosen approach to indulging the genital area. Caution: begin with a low vibration setting to ensure no teeth-chattering occurs and experiment with the placement of the vibrator around your mouth to achieve the appropriate addition of pleasure to your partner.
On other erogenous zones
Erogenous zones can form an erotic map on our partners’ body for unlocking a world of teasing and titillation, but often they can fall from the consciousness when penetrative sex begins. Spots like the neck, ears, nipples and elbows have been found to heighten the orgasm – or even reach it entirely when solely stimulated – but outside of foreplay, they lose their focal point for stimulation. Adding a massaging vibrator over the zones along with routine touching, can offer a new realm of pleasure.
Light BDSM
BDSM can add the flair of the theatrical, the sensual and the emotional, in a myriad of ways, to sex. Where BDSM often garners the reputation of being violent or the diametric opposite to “vanilla” sex, it opens up the floodgates for teasing, denying orgasm – something made all the more easier with a vibrator in tow. For people looking for a foray into BDSM, using your vibrator as a “denial” device, and bringing your partner to near climax is a way to embrace one of the core components of the sexual subculture. Play the dominatrix, and slowly inch your partner towards climax – and remember your safe word.
Deep clean in the shower
Technology has adapted to make vibrators water safe – and it’s not exclusively for hygienic purposes. Bring the toy into the next shower you have, solo or partnered, and enjoy a hydrogen-infused orgasm that washes over you like a multi-sensory wave of pleasure. The addition of the water will leave you feeling wetter than normal, and it helps with the inevitable clean up. Bonus points for using it in the bath, completely submerged.
As decoration
Aside from clasping and caressing the body like a warm glove, vibrators don’t look as gorgeous as they do to be forever stored in the cupboard or bedroom drawer. Placing them on full display in the bedroom can offer a unique, exciting addition to the room, and set the mood for future endeavours. Plus, research has found the presence of sexual cues has been linked to helping adjust the mindset for more pleasurable sex.
Go forth and find your vibe.
Written by Bianka Farmakis