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20 Ways to Enhance Your Solo Pleasure Experience

20 Ways to Enhance Your Solo Pleasure Experience

How do you feel when you engage in self-pleasure? Do you find yourself trying to finish quickly, or do you take your time to savour the experience? What if you took a few deep breaths and slowed down, truly syncing into the feeling of giving yourself pleasure?

When you indulge in self-pleasure, a feel-good chemical called dopamine is released into your body. Additionally, endorphins and oxytocin—the hormone that promotes feelings of calm and happiness—are released during orgasm, helping to lower cortisol (stress) levels.

Here's a guide on how to elevate your solo pleasure experience. Are you ready? Because things are about to get interesting.

Here's a guide on how to elevate your solo pleasure experience. Are you ready? Because things are about to get interesting.

  1. Find a comfortable spot: Choose a location where you feel relaxed, like your bed or a comfortable couch.

  2. Keep lubricant or body oil nearby: Having a lubricant handy can enhance your experience.

  3. Set the mood: Create your own pleasure sanctuary by dimming the lights, lighting a candle, adjusting the temperature, or opening a window. Take the time to set up your space in a way that makes you feel relaxed and comfortable.

  4. (Un)dress to suit your preference: How do you like to seduce yourself? Do you prefer to be naked, or do you enjoy wearing something silky? Maybe a piece of lingerie or your favourite comfy outfit feels best?

  5. Begin exploring your body: When you’re ready, run your hands slowly over your body. Take some deep, calming breaths and become aware of the sensations as your hands move along different areas.

  6. Reflect on your sensations: How does it feel when your hands move slowly over your body? Are you imagining your hands as your own, or picturing someone else's touch? Let your mind wander.

  7. Choose a finger to start: Trace it along the top of your body, moving down from your breasts towards your pelvis and vulva.

  8. Explore your breasts: Move your fingers back to your breasts, rubbing them slowly in a circular motion. Focus on your nipples—how do they feel? Are they erect? Soft? What sensations arise when you touch them?

  9. Tease just above your vulva: Move your hands down your body, making gentle circles with your fingers just above your vulva.

  10. Add lubricant: If you'd like to enhance your experience, apply lubricant or oil to your fingers now.

  11. Explore your labia: Glide your fingers inside your labia. Circle around your vaginal opening, allowing your imagination to roam. Feel free to fantasise about whose fingers you’d like them to be—remember, it’s just a fantasy and doesn't have to be real.

  12. Focus on your clitoris: Press your clitoris slowly with your fingers, rubbing it in circular motions. Experiment with different pressures—try pressing harder, then softer.

  13. Experiment with movement: Vary the size of your circles and the direction of your movements. Try diagonal motions, adjust your speed, and find what feels best.

  14. Engage your hips: Experiment with lifting your hips to meet your hands, creating a rhythm that enhances your experience.

  15. Tease yourself: Move your fingers down and slowly begin to explore inside your vagina if that feels good. You can also continue to rub your clitoris.

  16. Use your other hand: Touch your breasts and nipples with your other hand. Rubbing your palms together to create heat can add to the pleasure as you move them over your breasts.

  17. Explore edging: If you feel close to climax, try stopping just before orgasm to experiment with edging.

  18. Continue if you've climaxed: If you have climaxed, consider continuing slowly to see if you can reach that peak again.

  19. Keep exploring: Maybe you’d just like to keep discovering new sensations. Let your imagination run free; your body is yours to explore.

  20. Enjoy the journey: Remember, there’s no right or wrong way to experience pleasure. Allow yourself to enjoy the process.

 

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