If I'm not making out or having sex with my boyfriend, it's highly likely im self pleasuring. I like to close my eyes and do a body scan with my hands if I'm solo. I love feeling my skin and imagining it being another persons hand before I get all hot and heavy on the erogenous zones. If i'm not horny for sex or solo play, I'll read a little and fall asleep cuddling my dog!

Ooo this is hard. I love a day adventure that leads into the night... I find myself soo attracted to a partner when I've gone on an adventure with them during the day, seeing them in the light, watching them enjoy the little things and having really great conversations. I find going straight into a night date, there can feel like a hidden agenda/pressure and most of the time you're drinking alcohol or indulging in food which can both hinder your sex drive. Don't get me wrong, I love a hot dinner date, but I'd choose a day adventure (either a little bush walk or beach day + picnic) and then some making out back at one of our houses, maybe a day time shower, sex. Then head out for dinner at the end of the day. Bliss.

I feel like now, more than ever I'm so in tune with my body and I know that I've only gotten here by learning from what hasn't been working in the past. The biggest thing for me is communication. Whether that means checking in with myself and talking to my own desires and pleasure or communicating with my sexual partner. I don't really muck around anymore with asking for what you need and want. Not in a bossy way but in a "I know my body and I don't expect you to play guessing games and we both end up unsatisfied" kinda way. To me, it doesn't matter if your a one night stand or my boyfriend, from the very first sexual encounter i have with you, I'll check in to know what you need, like and desire, creating a safe space to not feel judged and then I'll open up about what i need too. When you set that base with someone, intimacy can only get better and you watch that flow into other areas of your relationship.